For decades women have been fighting to break into what was once known as the “men’s world”. They fought for occupations formerly only given to men, including network news anchor, sports broadcaster, airplane pilots, power and telephone lineman, armed forces, firefighters and many more. They demand to be paid the same wage as a man for the same job or position.
Women are also very active in the political arena, campaigning alongside and against men and sometimes achieving their goals. They declare that they are just as good, surely as smart and able as any man, and often by force, they insert themselves into various settings— even when their presence is unnecessary or unwanted— insisting it is their right. They talk tough words, assuring us that they are “down for the struggle,— until a man acts like, well, a man.
Today a man cannot compliment a woman without risk of being charged with sexual harassment; it’s absurd. All he has to do is say something to or about her and then the tears come, whining things like, “How dare he treat a woman that way!” (See Mika Brzezinski, Elizabeth Warren, Hillary Clinton, and Megyn Kelley, to name just a few…)
I say to these women, you cannot have it both ways. Either you are “one of the boys,” or you are a woman who feels, thinks, and acts like a woman. There is nothing wrong with that; I am happy to be a woman and proud to be a lady doing the things that I do best. When a gentleman compliments me, I smile and say Thank You. I like men, get along and work together well with men. Among the things in this world that we cannot change are science, physics, and nature. Men are men and women are women; it’s a wonderful thing.
If you want to be successful in any arena, rid yourself of the crippling female need for approval and take a lesson from Lady Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of United Kingdom: “I always cheer up immensely if an attack is particularly wounding because I think, well, if they attack one personally, it means they have not a single political argument left.”
In other words, if you can’t bark with the big dogs, get off the porch.