In the course of one week, I have read about a woman selling her virginity to the highest bidder, viewed a video on YouTube of a pregnant woman who filmed herself undergoing an abortion procedure, and watched the movie Irreplaceable about the breakdown of the family in society. Our world and culture are depressing and everywhere I look it seems women are losing the understanding of what makes us so unique in how we were created. We were made to be able to create and nurture life. Yet, society as a whole devalues the role of maternity because we cheapen sex and in the process forget the sacredness of motherhood.
For over fifty years now, we have been living the freedom of the sexual revolution. Women are free to have sex with whoever and whenever they want, thanks to birth control and legal abortion. The female race is not confined to the limitations of sex because we can now “control” our own sexual destiny. Sex will not lead to motherhood as long as we have the “choice.” We’ve created a society where sex is more important than motherhood. If women truly valued maternity as sacred, they would never personally put their motherhood at risk.
What does it mean to be sacred? Merriam-Webster defines sacred as “set apart, highly valued, important, and devoted exclusively to one service or use”. It also defines it as “holy” in that it is linked to God. What if we were to understand sex through the lens of love, commitment, and motherhood exclusively? How would we treat sex if its sole purpose was to protect the institution of motherhood?
When we protect animals or other forms of life that are threatened with extinction, we set up barriers so that no danger can harm the threatened life. In order to solve the threatening of extinction, new life must be made and pro-creation is encouraged. Great value is held on new life so that a new generation that was once feared to become extinct might flourish and grow. The act of sex as a freedom is certainly not becoming extinct but sex as the act of protecting life and motherhood is being threatened every day and ironically it began with the sexual freedom revolution.
Our society has subtracted sex from motherhood. They are no longer joined together. So women fight for “sexual rights” so that motherhood is not a part of the sexual equation. We’ve sacrificed a whole generation of new life through abortion because our society values the act of sex high above the role of motherhood.
Don’t think it’s true? Look who represents our pop culture. Lady Gaga, Miley Cyrus, and Beyonce’ all make their millions off of their sexuality and the act of sex. Beyonce’ is now a mother but does she promote the beauty of sex in the equation of motherhood- No! She claims “women should own their sexuality” and this ownership is what empowers women. I’ve never really understood how using your sexuality as an object, giving it away so freely, or how making a multi-million dollar industry off of using sex shows ownership. Seems like everyone is owning a piece of it and it’s not just Beyonce’. Feminists rage against the objectification of women but when women like Beyonce’ make tons of money by turning themselves into sexual objects it is deemed empowerment. Huh?
Have women lost their way in what makes sex an empowerment? According to Wikipedia, empowerment “refers to increasing the economic, political, social, educational, gender, or spiritual strength of individuals and communities.” Sounds like motherhood is more befitting the definition of sexual empowerment than twerking on a music stage.
In her book, The Privilege of Being a Woman, Alice von Hildebrand writes, “The very soul of the woman is meant to be maternal. Once this sublime calling has been trampled upon, such women become “unsexed;” they are ‘sick unto death.’ Maternity is a sublime calling, and even though man’s ungrateful heart often forgets his mother’s sufferings to bring him into the world and her endless devotion in order to bring him up, it is well-known that when a man faces death on a battlefield, his last words, his last thoughts are often directed to his mother.”
Motherhood is sacred. We know this as a society. We dedicate one day in May, every year, and honor mothers. Mothers come in all forms. Some women that are called mothers have never given biological birth to their children but their place inside the institution of motherhood is still just as sacred and valued. This is because women were created to nurture life.
Sex is also sacred and when we as a culture devalue sex, we devalue life, and in the process breakdown the sacredness of motherhood. For over fifty years, women have been fighting to make sure motherhood is not linked to sex. Sex is set apart as something that is now linked with the words “choice”, “right”, or “freedom” but its enslaved us to the point that we are our own enemies in the choices we make.
Now I am raising my own children in a world where sex is sold to the highest bidder on the internet or it’s simulated on a music stage. Sex is not linked to life but death when a woman films the killing of her unborn baby and puts the videotape on the Internet for all to see. This is the sexual freedom world I live in but it’s not what women were designed for. Sex and motherhood are sacred. Fight for the sacredness of both of them in our society, so our young girls (and boys) can be a part of the beautiful equation God intended since the beginning of time and where true freedom comes from.