Victim Mentality: Get Over Yourself

VictimIt was many decades ago when everyone decided that it was no longer necessary to take responsibility for his or her own actions.  Slowly but surely, doctors for mental illness jumped on the “pass the blame” bandwagon. They argued that criminals were “underprivileged” and because of this, they couldn’t help themselves or be blamed for their actions.  The bad guys of the world weren’t loved enough; they did not get enough cheerios. They were poor.  Nothing was their fault.

This was the first phase.

Now, we have what is known as the “politically correct” way of life.  Not only is nothing your fault, but we must also work tirelessly to root out bad feelings and bad things. We must pretend the unpleasant past never happened.  People should not be offensive to any group. Bullies must be legislated against, as no one should have to deal with them and the bad feelings they generate.

Of course, up until a few years ago, getting bullied and learning how to stand up and confront them built character.  Now, no one wants to have to become a stronger, better person; they just want it all to magically go away—or better yet, let’s make a new law!

Someone somewhere put out the crazy rumor that if we are sweet and get along, everything will be okay.  Isn’t that nice?  And sure, in a perfect world, it would be nice. However, we live in world where evil exists.

Let’s take the recent travesty of equestrian residue that is the Paula Dean scandal.  A long time ago, she said a bad word. A long time ago, many, many people said the same bad word. I thought we had worked together as a nation to change the majority of opinions and make things more equal. Many gave much, but some gave all.

I sincerely doubt that this sweet lady goes around saying that “unprintable word” these days.  Could the real issue be that she is a strong, successful, Southern businesswoman?  Many are up in arms against Deen, who has apologized as best she knows how, and yet the world and the media doesn’t seem all hot and bothered about what Rex Reed said about actress Melissa McCarthy. Isn’t it funny how that isn’t big, flaming hot news? Unlike Paula Deen, Rex Reed is still a movie critic; he has not lost his position and standing.

What about Alec Baldwin and the horrible things he says? The man can barely keep a civil tongue in his head, yet his apologies are acceptable. He still has his endorsements.

There is a new double standard in America.  If you are on the right side of certain PC things, you can publicly state your opinion without any problem.  However if you are from a stereotyped group, if you are a free thinker, and/or a Christian, you cannot have an opinion.

Opinions are like sphincters; everyone has one. The first amendment of the Constitution gives the right of free speech to all.  If something offends you, get over it!  Whatever it was probably wasn’t directed against you personally in the first place.  Unlike common belief these days, the world isn’t necessarily your own personal oyster and just because your mother called you son, that doesn’t mean the world revolves around you.

In the words of The Eagles song “Get Over It”:

“I turn on the tube and what do I see

A whole lotta people cryin’ “Don’t blame me”
They point their crooked little fingers at everybody else
Spend all their time feelin’ sorry for themselves
Victim of this, victim of that
Your momma’s too thin; your daddy’s too fat

Get over it
Get over it
All this whinin’ and cryin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over it!”

Candace Hardin Littlejohn

Georgia PolitiChick Candace Hardin Littlejohn lives in Atlanta, Georgia, but grew up in Western North Carolina. She has been greatly influenced in her writing by the culture in the Appalachians. Candace attributes her love of words to her Mother, who taught her to read at four years old. She is the creator and publisher of the literary magazine, Bohemian Renaissance, a magazine designed to launch emerging writers to publication, while providing good literature and art free to the community. Candace is 100% fluent in Spanish and a student of Latin. She loves dogs and spending time with friends and family. Visit Candace's website:

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