I recently read an article on Time.com entitled, Men Are Obsolete. It outraged me as a woman, a wife and a mother. I immediately wanted to stand on my platform and raise a symbolic hand in defense of men. To cry out, “Down with feminism and the self-entitlement of women that we are somehow a superior gender”. Then I calmed down and realized that no amount of anger or point by point defense of men will change a mentality where women prescribe to the notion that they are somehow “owed” for being a woman. In fact, feminism is steeped in the notion of rights and entitlements. However, there is a cost to our society for this female entitlement mantra and it’s time both men and women stand in defense of manly virtues or it will be the end of men as we know it.
The age old debate of Men vs. Women has been around for generations. The 60’s liberating generation set forth a new awareness for women and their place in society. Many women had to fight for equal pay and position in the workforce. Progress was made for women on so many fronts when feminism was defined by equal-opportunity. However, as timed passed and progress was made it seemed that many feminists had to not only attain equality but superiority. So now about 40 years later it’s not enough for women to make great strides in education, careers and income but men have to be emasculated in the process.
We see evidence of this emasculation of men in our culture on a daily basis. A surprising voice in defense of masculine virtues comes from a self-proclaimed “Amazon feminist”, Camille Paglia (who by the way is often criticized for her opinions within the feminist population).
In an interview in the Wall Street Journal, Paglia warns about the downfall of a culture that refuses to see the distinctions between the sexes. She highlights the fact that this emasculation begins as early as Kindergarten. “Primary-school education is a crock, basically. It’s oppressive to anyone with physical energy”, she remarks. This is evident with the increased medication of both boys and girls who are diagnosed with ADD and ADHD. Children seem to wiggle too much and play time is less of a requirement in school while children have a natural tendency to move and play. It also may be the reason why girls seem to be outperforming boys in school performance. Paglia warns, “They’re making a toxic environment for boys. Primary education does everything in its power to turn boys into neuters.”
She further details this increase in cultural emasculation in higher education with “this PC gender politics thing-the way gender is being taught in the universities-in a very anti-male way, it’s all about neutralization of maleness.” Basically, it’s not politically correct to be a man and thanks to the feminist movement that strives for gender neutrality men now have “no models of manhood”.
Another very significant point that Paglia so eloquently makes is the diminished status of military service in this country. “The entire elite class now, in finance, in politics and so on, none of them have military service- hardly anyone, there are a few. But there is no prestige attached to it anymore… these people don’t think in military ways, so there’s this illusion out there that people are basically nice…they literally don’t have any sense of evil or criminality”, she warns. Perhaps, this explains why our WWII veterans were barred from their war memorial during the recent government shutdown or why they are losing their retirement funds in government budget cuts. I believe the office of the Presidency should not be held without some kind of military service to understand the dedication and sacrifice of both men and women in the military but then again my views seem to be a bit outdated.
So how do we bring back masculinity? Paglia suggests a “revalorization” of masculine jobs such as construction, plumbing and electrical. After all, don’t we as women owe much for modern advances from the work men have done in making our lives so much easier in these type of professions. Why do we keep urging our children that college is the only future in our society? Paglia commented that “social snobbery” is pushing kids (males) into upper education where many are not necessarily suited.
We can also bring back masculinity in our society by simply celebrating and standing in defense of it.
Men- take a stand and don’t be intimidated by a group of “elite” females who think they speak for all women. They do not. We value men and their leadership. We need men to be fathers, husbands and leaders of their home and church. Many of us appreciate the sacrifice you make whether in the military or just at home raising a family. You are valued in our society and we gladly stand in support of who God made you to be.
Women- stand up for men. Let’s celebrate the progress women have made in equality with men but make the distinction without stripping men of the virtues that make them unique. Using the phrase “Be a Man” should not be some sort of taboo politically incorrect statement. Men and women were made differently and buying in to the notion that gender is nothing more than a social construct is hurting our society. Stop fighting self-interest battles. The real war on women should be focused on real world issues like “rape in India and honor killings in the Muslim world” as the self-proclaimed feminist, Camille Paglia, so simply reminds us.