When watching programs such as American Idol or The Voice the over abundance of beta male contestants struggling to hold back tears peppered with uncontrolled emotional outbursts is on display. It is obvious that no one at anytime in the contestants’ lives had the heart to tell them to man up.
Witness the consequences of a fatherless America.
In a USAToday interview Michael Gurian, the best selling author of such books as A Fine Young Man: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys into Exceptional Men was asked to give a reason why boys seem to be losing their sense of purpose and understanding of their social roles. Gurian responded, “One is the breakdown of the nuclear family, especially highlighting the loss of the father. At a certain point — puberty and beyond — males do naturally need to look to other males to try to understand how they’re supposed to be loving, wise and responsible men.”
In an era where one out of three children live in fatherless homes and watch an average of three to fours hours of TV per day (according to the U.S. Census Bureau), it is no wonder why boys are confused when it comes to shaping their self image and purpose as males. Boys are inundated with a barrage of shows and ads that depict fathers as incompetent, disengaged dolts who are continually emasculated by their wives and outwitted by their children.
Many of us sat passively by having become desensitized to the systematic mockery of the patriarchal family without fully realizing what was happening. Couple that with legislative policies instituted to financially disincentive marriage we begin to see the cultural repercussions play out on our TV screens. Not only do we see the repercussions on programs such as Idol, we see it on the evening news with nightly reports of violence and broken families in cities like Chicago and Detroit–cities where the father figure has been replaced by a faceless government and an ethereal statist figurehead.
There is good news for parents. With the inception of alternative media sources such as DVR, Netflix, and streaming programs on sites such as Amazon Instant Video, parents have the ability to garner more control over what children are watching as opposed to having absolutely no control over when erectile dysfunction ads, objectionable movie previews or dumb Dad ads flash before the screen. We can take back control.
Cultural feminization casts a disparity of results. Sadly, we’ve grown accustomed to seeing fatherless urban black males grow up to be angry, systemically disenfranchised casualties of government policies or recidivist members of the prison system. In contrast, fatherless suburban white boys sometimes grow up to be flamboyant little wannabe girls who shave.